It’s been a little while since I last posted about our toilet learning journey. At that point, both children were using the potty consistently at home, but neither were wearing pants of any kind. Whenever I put them in training pants they would wee in them!
We decided to introduce them to proper pants. After initially weeing in them within half an hour (luckily in the kitchen, where we have tiles!) and watching, amazed, as it poured from her lovely princess pants, Little Miss has been dry. And not just during the day; within a week she was dry at night, too. This does include a nightly wake-up to use the potty (not so great for me…) but she now wears ordinary pants at night, rather than a pull-up. She has mastered going to the toilet when we are out and about too, where she likes to be held over the big toilet – she won’t use our travel potty at all!!
Little Man has been a different story entirely. He had been so good at using the potty but slowly he started to use it less. We had lots of puddles on the floor, so I started to use training pants again to save the carpets! He continued to wee in the training pants but I went with it, hoping he might cotton on again soon and use the potty. He didn’t. We reached the point where he wasn’t using the potty for any wees at all, only his poos. And then that stopped too.
He was clearly telling me something. He wasn’t ready.
I decided to start putting him in disposable pull-ups again. I think he and I were getting a little stressed out with the constant clean-up operation, so going back to disposables has helped us both relax about the whole thing once more. He hasn’t really shown any interest in using the potty. He will occasionally go at bath time, and he used the travel potty when we were out the other day, but that was partly because he likes to wee on the frogs in the disposable bag.
I offer him his potty first thing in the morning, at bath time, and each time I change his pull-up. If he uses it, then that’s fine; if not, that’s fine too. I think he is physically ready (and he proved that at the beginning of the process) but emotionally he isn’t – he’s just too busy with life to even contemplate stopping to do something as trivial as wee in a potty. I shall continue to follow his lead; he’ll let me know when he’s ready to try again.